most affluent society in history is plagued with feelings of dissatisfaction
and depression. Twenty-eight million Americans have taken Prozac
or other anti-depressant medications. The Gallup Organization has
suggested that 80 percent of people working in American corporations
feel miscast in their current careers. How about you? Do you feel
trapped in the life you are leading? Would you like more satisfaction
from your job, lifestyle, and relationships? Follow these steps
to beat the "success trap":
- Know what you want and ask for it. Take charge of your
existence by asking the question, "What do I need in my life to
feel happy and content?" Make a list of all the things you always
wanted to do, but never have gotten around to.
- Learn how to live in the moment. By acknowledging your
emotional needs and seeking to meet those needs in the present,
you can chart the course that will provide satisfaction in the
here and now.
- Simplify your life. Too many "things" have a way of
keeping you tied up in the details of living so you don't have
time to think about life itself. Once you simplify your life,
the whole idea of making changes is easier to approach.
- Visualize what your perfect day would look like. The
human mind works with images much like a movie does. See yourself
actually doing the things you came up with in #1.
- Make a "business plan," a list of the changes that must
occur before you can enjoy your perfect day. Looking at the
lifestyle your visualizations have created, work your way backward
and determine the route you will need to take to bring it to fruition.
- Start the ball rolling. Action breaks the ice and takes
you from passive to active mode. You are no longer just talking
about doing something with your life, which costs you nothing
and involves no risks, but you are putting your money where your
- Clear your mind of abusive thoughts that hold you back.
When the message you get all your life is that you really don't
deserve to be a success, you end up believing it. Free yourself
from abusive thoughts by exposing them to the light of day.
- Stop accepting abusive behavior from bosses, co-workers,
friends, and family. If you surround yourself with angry,
negative people, you are supporting the abuse-based society that
got you into trouble in the first place.
- Surround yourself with affectionate people who are supportive
and nurturing. You need their support to make significant
changes in your life and to seek out meaningful personal success.
- Don't give up. Be fully committed to the task of changing
your life. Once you sincerely acknowledge the significance of
making constructive changes, you may find that it is hard not
Ed Brodow is a motivational speaker, negotiation expert, and author
of Beating the Success Trap: Negotiating Your Own Path to Success. If you wish to reprint this article in your publication,
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